Relationships 101

David C Cook COVID-19 Response

High School

Lesson 3
Summer 2023
By: RLD Editorial Team
June 18, 2023

Lesson Focus:

Base your relationships on God’s guidelines.

Bible Basis:

Exodus 20:12-14; Romans 13:9-10; Ephesians 6:1-3

Materials Needed:

Step 1:

Internet access

Step 4:

Paper strips (tissue wrapping paper if possible)
Pens/pencils

Summary & Links:

Students will discuss an example of a committed marriage relationship and discover that God’s guidelines should be the basis for all our relationships.

Memory Verse:

Jesus replied: “‘Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind.’ This is the first and greatest commandment. And the second is like it: ‘Love your neighbor as yourself.’”
—Matthew 22:37-39

Students will discuss an example of a committed marriage relationship and discover that God’s guidelines should be the basis for all our relationships.

Materials Needed:

Internet access

As your group meets, ask if anyone of them know of someone who had to cancel a wedding or drastically changed their wedding plans due to the pandemic a few years. Also allow your students to share about stories weddings they may have attended.

Whether a couple takes their vows privately or in front of a large crowd, a wedding celebrates love as it signifies that a couple is committed to a covenant of marriage—a lifelong commitment of love which requires support, honor, and faithfulness.

Let’s hear what one couple who has been married many decades has to say about lifelong relationships.

Share the following short video with your students:
100 year old couple share secret to good marriage

How is this love story different than those portrayed in many movies or other media? (Answers will vary but may include: They have been committed for the long haul, even after the initial butterflies wear off; their relationship isn’t centered on how the other person looks or how that person makes them feel; they prioritize being kind to each other and communicating well; etc.)

Their marriage advice of being kind and taking time to listen and communicate is something we can apply to all of our relationships—relationships with our parents, friends, and anyone else God puts in our lives.

Do you see the relationships in your life as marked by kindness, support, honor, and faithfulness or would you say that something else drives them? (Your students may feel very vulnerable as they discuss this; be sure to acknowledge that for many of us there is some element of selfishness involved in our relationships as we want to see our own needs met. Share your own vulnerability in this relationship analysis to make the conversation a safe place to share.)
Who is your personal real-life example of someone who supports, honors, or stays faithful to you and others? (Accept all reasonable answers.)

How different the world would be if all of our relationships were full of kindness, love, and good communication! Our relationships matter to God—let’s see what God has to say about how we treat each other.

Looking for Steps 2 & 3?

You can find Steps 2 and 3 in your teacher’s guide. To purchase a teacher’s guide, please visit: Bible-in-Life or Echoes.

Materials Needed:

Paper strips (tissue wrapping paper if possible)
Pens/pencils

If your class is meeting online, invite students to bring supplies to class.

None of us are perfect at loving others the way God wants us to. You can blame it on the circumstances, the other person’s attitude, the influence of the world, or our own selfishness but regardless, God calls us to a higher standard for all relationships. He calls us to true love.

What gets in the way of you loving others the way God asks of us? (Answers will vary.)
How do you think life might change if you began treating everyone by God’s standards rather than the world’s standards? (Answers will vary.)

Ask students to think of three people: one they have hurt, one they have dishonored in some way, and one they have not been loyal to. Their challenge will be to find a way to reach out to the one they’ve hurt, honor the one they have dishonored, and show loyalty to the person they’ve been unfaithful toward. Your students might choose a parent, sibling, friend, teammate, classmate, teacher, etc. Some of the situations might be bigger (a major break of trust with parents or spreading a lie about a friend) and others smaller (not helping when they said they would or a thoughtless joke that really stung). This challenge could very well take longer than a week to complete, but encourage your teens to see it through.

Hand out the paper strips and pens/pencils (or invite students to have them ready at home). As a symbolic reminder of today’s commitments, have your teens write the names on a strip of paper. Challenge them to carry these names with them this week, being careful not to wrinkle or rip the paper. Being careful with a delicate piece of paper will serve as a reminder that our relationships require care, gentleness, and respect.

Close in prayer asking God to help you and your students learn to see others through His eyes and base your relationships on His guidelines.

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