If using a social conferencing platform or meeting in a classroom, write the following questions on a whiteboard or poster board; cover them so they can’t be seen until the appropriate time:

1. What is your favorite day of the week? Why?
2. If you could make your own ice cream sundae using three different flavors of ice cream, which flavors would you choose?
3. When you are tired, how do you sound and act?
4. If you were an amazing sculptor, and you decided to build a sandcastle, what would it look like?
5. What things about growing up confuse/confused you?

Sometimes, the reason why parents misunderstand their children and kids misunderstand their parents, deals with the fact that they don’t know each other well.  Parents get busy; kids get busy—no one takes the time to find out about each other. Even in the recent quarantine we may find it hard to take time to learn something new about each other.

• Do you think it might be easier to obey your parents if you understood them better? Why or why not? (Answers will vary.)

Today let’s look at something that will help your parents (or guardians) better understand how you think. And if you are completely honest, this will help you know your parents better as well.

Make sure your students have access to paper and a pen or pencil. Then reveal the questions that you wrote earlier. These questions may seem a little odd, but they’re all about bonding.

• What does it mean to “bond” with someone? (Responses may include getting to know someone, learning what individuals have in common, and understanding someone better.)

Look at these five questions. Decide which one (or more) would you like to ask one or both of your parents. Write down the question(s) that you’d feel comfortable talking with them about.

Sometime this week, invite them to sit down with you—maybe in the kitchen over a dish of ice cream. Tell them about what you talked about in our class today and say, “Would you mind if I ask you a question?” Then ask the question that you wrote on your card. Once they have answered, give them your answer to that question as well. Use the time as a springboard to ask other respectful questions and see if you can get to know your parents better. You may be surprised where that conversation leads and how much you learn that you never knew before. Allow time for students to write on their paper.

Ask a volunteer to read Proverbs 1:8: “Listen my son, to your father’s instruction and do not forsake your mother’s teaching.” Spend a few minutes in closing prayer by allowing your students to turn that verse into sentence prayers. (Examples might be: “Father God, help me to really hear my parents when they are talking to me” or “Help me remember and obey everything my parents teach me.”)